THE DEATH OF THE BUSINESS CARD HAS BEEN GREATLY EXAGGERATED

Written by: Gayle on February 21st, 2012

We politely keep our ‘trap shut’ when a business guru proudly proclaims that he doesn’t give out business cards–too tacky, everyone already knows them, wouldn’t want the’ little people’* having access to their email address… Or there’s the tech guru who says that giving out a business card is so last century–get with the program people and start bumping each other electronically. We are happy to see Bloomberg Businessweek taking a stand, debunking the death of the paper business card. (*Oh, about those little people: Tom Peters says ‘little people have big friends.’)

But as result of all this dialogue about the business card, audiences often want to know if they should give out business cards.  Here’s a recent answer to this question from a reader who had just been given advice to only exchange cards electronically:

Dear David,

We are puzzled by that advice. In our experience, most people have difficulty remembering names, so without something to remind us and to provide contact information we are hooped when it comes to follow-up or further contact.  That is not to say we contact everyone we meet, but we can if we wish to if we have a card and so can they. We have met many people who didn’t have cards where we wanted to follow-up but were unable to. Why limit our network this way?  After all, the purpose of positive networking is, “discovering what we can do for someone else.”  How can we help someone if we don’t have contact information?  Relying only those who share contact information electronically is needlessly limiting.

Some have told us they screen contacts on the spot to determine who is ‘important’ and only exchange contact information with them. This is a mistake in our view. This is often a technique of ‘transactional’ networking, where the primary object is a quick referral or sale. Positive networking is different, it is about relationships which may or may not be related to business of the day.  All contacts are important in our experience, especially the weakest ones which, according to Mark Granovetter(see Work the Pond!) are most often the most important in life.

Networks are important for business but it is important to remember people do business with those they know, trust and like and that takes time, and this usually takes more than one meeting.  In some cultures such as Japan, the very foundation of business is personal relationships built on trust. Here, it is considered rude or unprofessional not to offer someone a name card.  The business card exchange at first contact is a time-honoured tradition and a graceful ritual. In our view, a first step in establishing trust is doing a kindness for someone who otherwise would almost certainly have difficulty remembering our name and how to contact us, giving them a card.

So, the choice is ours.  Meet a lot of people and have them not remember us, or be unable to contact us, and vice versa…or give them a piece of paper with our name and contact info on it.  In the first instance, there is an almost 100% chance nothing will come of our encounters, in the latter amazing things will happen, most often in random and unexpected ways.  Just like the Amex folks, we never leave home without them.

Hope this helps.

Darcy Rezac

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Add More Content to Your LinkedIn Invitation

Written by: Gayle on January 21st, 2012

 

When inviting someone to join your LinkedIn network it is helpful to give them some additional contact information.  Example: Hi Lynne,  Happy New Year! I was wondering if I could add your to my professional network.  Then put your full name, title, company, and contact information.  Use all the real estate on the page!

LinkedIn does some very short little video clips to help you build a better profile.  Here’s one.

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Ten Tips You Need to Know for Networking in 2012

Written by: Gayle on December 31st, 2011

2012

  1. ACCEPT THAT THERE’S NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU. Recognize that if all the online connecting and the ability to work in your pajamas from home, is making you feel isolated, you are not alone. Sherry Turkle, author of Alone Together, says “We may be free to work from anywhere, but we are also prone to being lonely everywhere. In a surprising twist, relentless connection leads to a new solitude.” Make an effort to be where the action is. See Tip 8 and Steve Job’s advice.
  2. RAGE GENTLY AGAINST THE MACHINES. Things happen faster if you talk to someone in person or pick up the phone. The good news is that people actually answer their phones–it’s a novelty, a ringing phone. Curb the desire to email close-proximity colleagues, instead walk over to their office. Make more of your conversations face-to-face in 2012.
  3. EMBRACE THE OCTOPUS. Social media is a many-tentacled creature that squeezes time out of your 24 hours. Accept that it may not be practical to be a brilliant tweeter, blogger, You Tuber, LinkedIn or Facebook updater, so instead of hopping on all social media bandwagons, do one or two things well. Before you upload, send, or comment, ask yourself, ‘what did that add to my reputation, my brand or to anyone else’s world?’
  4. MAKE THE EFFORT ON LINKEDIN. Not only is LinkedIn the go-to-site for business connections, it has become the search engine for finding people. Wonder what happened to the guy you knew at Acme Inc. who has left the company and his email address has been disabled? Try LinkedIn. Savvy people have good, up-to-date LinkedIn profiles.
  5. START USING YOUR INITIALS. In the social networking world you may not be that special. If you have a common name, or have the misfortune of sharing one with an axe murderer or criminal, start including the initial of your middle name. Any wild and crazy pictures of you bouncing around the digital world? Google yourself and look at Images. Do you see your professional headshot or a go-go dancer with the same name?
  6. COMMIT RESOURCES TO YOUR FACE TO THE WORLD. Your business may have a Facebook Fan site with 36 million ‘Likes’, really cool videos, contests and then there’s one raunchy ‘Wall’ post that you didn’t catch. Maybe you need a DSM, Director of Social Media?
  7. REDEFINE NETWORKING, FINALLY! It’s about time to toss out the image of a glass of wine, cheese cube schmooze-fest and accept networking for what it is–it’s simply reaching out and making a connection. It happens in the hallway at work, sitting on an airplane, at social and business events. If there’s at least one other person in close proximity there’s an opportunity to connect. Networking is an attitude, not an event.
  8. TRANSFUSE THE DEAD ZONE. Do your bit to bring some life back to the office by talking and sharing ideas. Take it from Steve Jobs: “There’s a temptation in our networked age to think that ideas can be developed by email and iChat…That’s crazy. Creativity comes from spontaneous meetings, from random discussions.” (from Walter Isaacson’s book, Steve Jobs)
  9. TEACH YOUR KIDS SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE SKILLS. Who else is going to do it? Do they think to shake hands when meeting an adult? Do they know how to converse with those more senior? If you are a young person reading this and your parental unit forgot to share these life lessons, join a ‘young professionals’ group in a business organization. It’s amazing how senior business leaders say ‘yes’ to mentoring students.
  10. BE NICER. Make this Maya Angelou quote your mantra for 2012: “People will never forget how you made them feel.”

Darcy Rezac, Judy Thomson and Gayle Hallgren-Rezac.
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How to Stand at a Networking Event

Written by: Gayle on November 27th, 2011

This is a simple thing to do when networking, keep it open.  These two women and two men behind them have the right technique.  Now, all we have to do is get the two women to turn around. That’s how networking happens!  The two guys at the bottom left corner do not look approachable…they look hungry.

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